I Cannot Think of my Handicapped Daughter as Precious; Son, Daughter Without Disabilities Are ‘Adorable’

I’m a mother in my early 40s with three children ranging from elementary school to high school age. My husband has been working overseas on his own for many years. He returns home once or twice a year.

Our older daughter, a junior high school student, has a severe intellectual disability. She is unable to take care of herself, so I have to help her with everything, including using the bathroom and bathing. She is very particular about things and often gets angry suddenly or screams nonstop for a long time.